05 June 2008

persuading your woman's freaky side to come out to play

Lack of sex from your woman making you hungry with envy of all your single buds who seem to be putting their cock to use every night? Wishing there was a magic button you could press to bring out your girl’s inner sex kitten?

Unfortunately men, women just aren’t hardwired like you to crave sex every ten seconds. This isn’t to say we don’t think about it or want but for a lot of women, they have to be in ’the mood’ which means you’ve got some work to do. Lying on the couch and beginning to whisper naughty phrases while caressing her breasts in the middle of Grey’s Anatomy isn’t your golden ticket to sex. But cooking her dinner, doing the dishes, and making sure the house is quiet during her favorite show is.

Despite women’s badass independent attitudes these days and their spouting off the ridiculousness of romance and love, deep down all women still want their knight in shining armor to come sweep them off their feet. Romance seems to be a hardwired desire like loving to shop for shoes and a deep appreciation for chocolate. It is quite possibly the quickest and easiest way to get your woman in the mood. Learn to romance your woman with little gestures. Fortunately men, this can be done with a few choice actions on your part. Yes, it may seem tedious at first, but do you want sex or not? And moreso, do you want a lot of it?

To get your woman to remember how much she wants to jump your bones, try sending her flowers at work but not just a dozen roses. Create a custom bouquet with her tastes in mind. Go out of your way on random days to let her know you are thinking about her. Compliment her but do so with specifics. Not just a ’wow, you look sexy’ but more of a ’wow, those underwear really make your ass look amazing.’ Or if you really want to pay a sincere compliment and get extra bonus points, compliment her on a personality trait or praise an accomplishment. Plan a picnic lunch instead of taking her to another restaurant for dinner. If she is into theater, purchase tickets to an upcoming show and actually praise the show afterwards. Listen to her and take a general interest in how her day was. Take the time to notice the little things that she does to look hot for you. Wash her car. Bring her coffee in bed or make a special trip to Starbucks for her. Take her car in to be serviced. Remember her mother’s birthday. Pack her a lunch with a special note just for her. Unexpectedly show up at work with a single flower and take her to a surprise lunch. Give her a foot massage. A woman who feels loved and desired is far more inclined to have sex with you than one who feels that you just want some nookie. And not just spread her legs for you sex, but mindblowing sex that will leave a lasting impression for months and years to come.

Remember early on in the relationship when sex was bountiful? What were you doing then that you aren’t doing now? Did you send your girl emails every morning to let her know you were thinking of her? Stop by unexpectedly to say ’goodnight’ with a kiss? Make her breakfast in bed? Compliment her when she got dressed up for a date? Even if you didn’t do all these things, start doing them now. It is the romantic gestures that show women that you not only care about the relationship but that you are invested. It may seem silly or ridiculous to you, but women have sex because they love you but they also need to feel your investment in the relationship. Try to be original and creative while keeping her tastes and preferences in mind. Sometimes the simplest things such as picking her a flower from a bush as you walk by will work miracles for your sex life.

Yes, this means you are actually going to have to work for sex but remember the more you showcase your love and attraction for her through romantic gestures, the more likely you are to come home to your girlfriend dressed in a naughty schoolgirl outfit and ready to please you all night long. Do the unexpected. It is the little gestures that make women feel loved and appreciated. It is these little gestures that make you both feel loved and appreciated. Loved and appreciated women screw their men til the cows come home and are less likely to bitch and complain.