the life of a singleton

i have often been asked on here, "why are you single?" first of all, i HATE that question. why does being single have such a negative connotation. has anyone ever thought about all the advantages of being single or are we all so brainwashed that we can only think of ourselves as being whole or happy when we are with someone else, even if that person isn't the right one for us or, worse, if we are in some type of abusive relationship. guys ask me this question making it seem like i NEED to be with someone. why do we make being single sound like some deadly disease? why don't we ever ask, "why are you in a relationship?" i think that question would be far harder to answer, at least truthfully. frankly, i haven't had anyone banging down my door lately. it's funny, everyone asks me this question yet there really aren't that many offers coming in which is a bit confusing. apparently guys make it seem like i am a catch since they ask that question yet nothing ever happens as a result. why is it that we look at our value as being directly proportionate to whether or not we are currently in a relationship? why can't we be complete alone? as the saying goes, "no man is an island," but i do believe man can be self-sustaining and whole without relying on someone else to make him happy. why do we look to others to make our lives seem meaningful? why don't we just dig deeper within ourselves and find true happiness with who we are rather than who we are with. we define ourselves, we are not defined by our "significant" other. let the chips fall where they may because until you can make yourself happy, no one else can do it for you. there's NOTHING wrong with being single. there is however, something wrong with being in a meaningless relationship just for the sake of feeling complete.
ultimately, i have come to the conclusion that guys don't actually want girls who are intelligent, sophisticated, funny, talented, ambitious, etc what they want is an arm piece or a trophy girl. essentially they want barbie. not someone with substance, although they claim that they do. what they really want is simply a hot girl. if they truly wanted someone with substance there would be a line outside my door.
i'm not saying women don't have their vices when choosing men; however, i do believe they look for more sensible qualities.