When you’re not Carrie Bradshaw or Samantha Jones, the dating game takes on a whole new look. Men, especially the ones you desire, do not come flocking your way as soon as you enter the bar; and you certainly do not always end your night screaming in ecstasy. Instead, you go home, alone, depressed and ready to add yet another notch to your belt with all the comfort food you’ll be eating on the following day. Your only relief: knowing that you’ll at least be sleeping with one man: your ever faithful dog.
How did dating get to be such a complicated and nerve racking task? It’s become more of a chore than a pleasurable time. Growing up, everyone always made dating sound easy for women. Just look pretty and they will come. I may not be Angelina Jolie but I am certainly not Medusa either and I can certainly attest to not having a multitude of men surrounding me when I am out. I don’t get to have mind-blowing sex with a different man each night I hit the town, hell I can’t even get a call back when guys do come up and talk to me. Supposedly, it’s easier for women. I’ll admit if you are strictly looking for a one-night stand, of course it’s easier for women cause at least 90% of the men out there will take almost any woman home if it’s a sure thing. But if you are looking for that genuine guy who actually wants a relationship or at least wants to see you more than once then forget it honey, that’s like finding that needle in a haystack. I manage to stumble upon plenty of men who are willing to take me home with them to add as another notch on their bed post but none that are willing to take me home to meet their mother.
Dating in the real world is nothing like they portray it on tv. The Sex and the City girls never seemed to have problems finding dates nor did the girls on Friends or Grace on Will & Grace. Come to think of it, television makes the dating world look incredibly simple. Just walk out your front door and bang you’ve got yourself a date. Well, for any of us actually taking residence in reality you’ll know this is far from the truth because if dating in the real world was anything like tv or movie dating then internet services, like Match.com and eHarmony, and single events woud not be needed. Face it, who actually looks like Jennifer Aniston, Kim Cattrell or Matt LeBlanc or the new doctor on Grey’s Anatomy. Actually managing to get a date takes a lot of strategic planning and effort. And that’s just for one date. Who’s to say if you’ll actually make it to round two. Is it really worth all the effort it takes for us “average Joe’s” to get a date with today’s standards placed on men and women? Standards that only the Paris Hilton’s of the world can seem to live up to.
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